Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You’re not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever.

Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy.

In this podcast, I’ll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We’ll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life.

Timestamps:
00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever
00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun
01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy
02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship
03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love
04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication
06:12 – Focus on What’s Good (And Watch it Grow!)
07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again
09:31 – Leading with Love
12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments

If you’ve been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I’ve got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication. 💕

💬 Got questions? Join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube. Submit your questions anonymously ahead of time here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use this advice, share this video with them! Let’s create stronger, happier relationships together. 💕

Ever feel like you’re at war with yourself? This might change everything…

In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth. 🌟

We all have parts of us—the inner critic, the procrastinator, the overachiever. These parts aren’t flaws; they’re doing their best to protect us, even if their methods aren’t helpful. Dr. Schwartz explains how we can connect with these parts, heal the pain behind them, and step into the calm, confident Self that’s been there all along.

Plus, we’ll dive into practical tools from his new workbook, discuss how trauma impacts your inner world, and even demonstrate how to start connecting with your parts. This conversation is packed with insights you don’t want to miss.

Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Why You Feel Stuck
01:15 Meet Dr. Richard Schwartz: Founder of IFS
03:40 What Are “Parts” and Why Do They Matter?
08:20 The Healing Power of Your Self
12:45 Live Demo: Working with Your Parts
20:00 Balancing Inner Conflicts
30:50 When and How to Seek Professional Help
38:15 Insights from IFS
40:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz to help you gain personal insights and self-awareness around your inner world. This will shed a light on hidden obstacles within yourself so you can move forward into your best year yet with clairity and confidence. I hope you check it out.

After you listen to this episode, join me LIVE this Thursday at 12 pm MT for an open Q&A on personal growth and Internal Family Systems. Submit your anonymous questions here, and I’ll answer them live on Thursday: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone who could use a little encouragement today. Let’s grow together! 💕

Ever feel stuck, like you're trying SO hard to change, but somehow end up back in the same place? You're not alone, and guess what—it's not your fault. In this episode, we'll unlock the secrets to reprogramming your subconscious mind to finally get the life you want. 🙌

Whether you're aiming to nail your New Year's resolutions or just break free from old patterns, this episode will give you the tools to make it happen. ✨

Timestamps to Transform Your Mindset:

00:00 – Why “Wanting It” Isn’t Enough

03:05 – Mind Wars: Conscious vs. Subconscious Goals

05:07 – Aligning Goals with Subconscious Needs

10:08 – How to Identify Limiting Beliefs

24:03 – Brain Rewiring 101

41:14 – Building Self-Trust: Small Steps, Big Shifts

45:51 – Your Roadmap to Lasting Change

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz for personalized insights into your subconscious blocks! This will help you start your new year off with clarity and confidence so you can achieve what matters most to you.

Wishing you all the best in this new chapter!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who’s so ready to make a change—you might just change their life, and get an accountability partner in the process. Let’s do this together! 💪