169 This is the first in a re-boot of some of the most essential episodes of the podcast that I will be releasing occasionally. Whether you’re newer to the podcast, or if you’ve listened to every episode, this one is a must listen (or re-listen).

Because often, as humans, we go about trying to improve our marriage backwards: we're more focused on changing our partner than changing ourselves.

But focusing on your spouse isn’t where you pack the most punch for actual change!

There is a more effective, easier, and more rewarding approach to improving your marriage, where you actually have powerful influence to have the loving, connected, supportive marriage you want with your husband.

It entails bringing your focus back to YOURSELF, by answering this essential question: “Who do I want to be in my relationship?”. And then centering your focus on becoming her.

This will get way better results in your marriage.

In this updated episode, we look at what it means to be who you want to be and WHY focusing on this is so effective when we want to improve our love lives.

I illustrate this with an example of a challenge in my own marriage and the difference in results I get when I'm focusing on my husband improving, versus stepping in to being who I really want to be, instead.

Then I help you define for yourself who you want to be.

Creating this clear vision for yourself is essential in order to actually take that journey of becoming her. Once you take this step you will be on the way to truly making changes by leaps and bounds in your marriage.

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The connection and closeness we so deeply want with our partner can dissipate for a variety of reasons, but often it comes from a slow hardening of our hearts towards our spouse in response to the arguments, the many moments of irritation, or the mistakes we feel they are making, and the disappointment we feel from it all.

If that resonates at all (or you are simply tired of feeling disconnected with your partner), this story-and-metaphor-filled episode is an absolute must-listen for you.

To create more of the deep intimacy and connection you truly want, it’s essential to stop this slow closing of your heart. Because it is cutting you off from love and making the closeness you crave ever elusive.

It starts with recognizing that this isn’t simply because of what’s been happening recently between you, but rather because of what I am calling “emotional vitamins” that you did not get in your younger years, which have led you to “over-protect” your tender heart when you don't get the love you need from your spouse.

It’s the case for most of us. But it can absolutely be changed now. You've just got to "take" the right "vitamins"!

Listen in to this episode to hear all about why our hearts slowly harden, and what you can do today and beyond to “take” the Emotional Vitamins you need to heal your heart and make available so much more of the love, connection, and intimacy you want between you and your significant other, so you can really FEEL it between you.

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167 You want to look forward to your life with your significant other into the future. Imaging a bright future with each other is part of what keeps a relationship vibrant and alive in the present.

An important (and sometimes overlooked) piece of that is spending time dreaming into that future together with your spouse. Sharing and supportively working towards both your personal dreams and your dreams for your relationship will not just be super connecting, but it will bring excitement, fun, and so much fulfillment into your lives together.

Dreaming together can be like glue that keeps you moving side by side into a bright looking future. There really isn't a better way to honor who each of you are, and feel on the same team. Plus, it's HOW you make cool things happen!

Sadly, I’ve found that this important element of a marriage slips to the wayside in many marriages, to the detriment of both partners. So join me today to hear:

• Why you want to make sure you are dreaming together,
• What amazing and deeply satisfying things it leads to for both of you
• What counts as “dreams” (hint: they don't have to be outlandish or big!)
• What it looks like to dream together
• Why knowing and supporting each other's dreams matters,
• Tips for actually doing that
• My own personal stories about how dreaming with my husband has affected my marriage
• And ways to start dreaming together for more connection today, including specific questions to ask and communicate about

…so you can feel a sense of truly looking forward to your future with your partner by your side, as you build, together, a life you both love.

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The popular Closer To Your Husband in 7 Days Challenge is back, updated, and better than ever! We start October 15th. Learn more and enroll now here.

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