Yep, we said it - the legal system is not fair or your friend! In this episode, Grown Girl Divorce podcast host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. confronts the hard truths that the legal system is not built to be fair and it's definitely not your friend. If you're considering divorce, or going through one, it's important to understand how the court system actually works, and not how you wish it would.

Kimberly breaks down why fairness isn’t a legal standard, how relying on the court for validation is unrealistic, and what it really means to be strategic in a system that wasn’t designed with you in mind. Kimberly also gives you reminders on how to stay prepared and grounded despite the legal system not being fair or your friend!

This episode isn’t about fear but about freedom. The kind that comes from clarity, composure, and knowing how to move through a system without letting it break you.

Listen in and learn:

• Why the court focuses on facts, not feelings

• How to avoid the trap of “fighting for fairness”

• What to prioritize in your legal strategy, and

• How to protect your peace with a key mantra

Whether you're early in your divorce process or deep in the trenches, this episode will help you reset your expectations and reclaim your power in the process that is not fair or your friend.

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The Grown Girl Divorce podcast is a space of relatability for Black women considering and going through a divorce. These are girlfriend conversations to educate and empower you through the process. Our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq., is a highly acclaimed divorce attorney and mediator breaking down divorce misinformation, dismantling stereotypes on Black families, and shining the light on the importance of diverse representation in family law. Grown Girl Divorce podcast guests are primarily women of color providing expert information or personal stories as a way to give voice to and support Black women going through divorce.

Connect with us:

Website: www.growngirldivorce.com

Instagram: @growngirldivorce

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/grown-girl-divorce

To learn more about the podcast host:

Website: https://sdflaw.com/team/detail/kimberly-a-cook

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlyjohnsoncook

When stress is high and emotions run deep, communication can easily become a source of conflict instead of a path to resolution. In this episode, Grown Girl Divorce podcast host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq., breaks down six common communication mistakes that can derail your progress.

Kimberly discusses the following six mistakes:

1. Letting Emotions Drive Decisions – Learn why reacting instead of responding can cost you time, money, and peace of mind.

2. Using Children as Messengers – Understand how this tactic can harm your kids and backfire legally and emotionally.

3. Engaging in Text Wars – Discover how ongoing digital disputes can become evidence, drain your energy, and distract from your goals.

4. Social Media Oversharing – Hear why posting your pain or calling out your ex online can do more harm than good, especially in court.

5. Failing to Actively Listen – Get tips for hearing what’s really being said (even when it’s hard) and how that can shift the case dynamic.

6. Neglecting to Follow Professional Guidance – Explore how disregarding the advice of your lawyer, therapist, or mediator can sabotage your progress.

Whether you’re just beginning your divorce or deep in the process, this episode will help you stay grounded, communicate more effectively, and avoid unnecessary setbacks.

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The Grown Girl Divorce podcast is a space of relatability for Black women considering and going through a divorce. These are girlfriend conversations to educate and empower you through the process. Our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq., is a highly acclaimed divorce attorney and mediator breaking down divorce misinformation, dismantling stereotypes on Black families, and shining the light on the importance of diverse representation in family law. Grown Girl Divorce podcast guests are primarily women of color providing expert information or personal stories as a way to give voice to and support Black women going through divorce.

Connect with us:

Website: www.growngirldivorce.com

Instagram: @growngirldivorce

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/grown-girl-divorce

To learn more about the podcast host:

Website: https://sdflaw.com/team/detail/kimberly-a-cook

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlyjohnsoncook

This special Mother's Day episode is dedicated to all the mothers navigating divorce while balancing career, motherhood, and self-preservation. If you go by mom, mama, or mother, then this episode is for you! In this episode, Grown Girl Divorce podcast host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. shares five reminders to carry you through this season of life including permission to prioritize your peace, celebrate yourself, reimagine your life, and most importantly, remind you that you are a good mother!

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The Grown Girl Divorce podcast is a space of relatability for Black women considering and going through a divorce. These are girlfriend conversations to educate and empower you through the process. Our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq., is a highly acclaimed divorce attorney and mediator breaking down divorce misinformation, dismantling stereotypes on Black families, and shining the light on the importance of diverse representation in family law. Grown Girl Divorce podcast guests are primarily women of color providing expert information or personal stories as a way to give voice to and support Black women going through divorce.

Connect with us:

Website: www.growngirldivorce.com

Instagram: @growngirldivorce

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/grown-girl-divorce

To learn more about the podcast host:

Website: https://sdflaw.com/team/detail/kimberly-a-cook

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlyjohnsoncook