We recorded this week’s show in the gorgeous GoSpread.ai podcast space in San Francisco - thank you, team! (Yes, we instantly wanted to crank out a dozen episodes in those vibes.)

Here’s what we covered:

• Negotiation behind-the-scenes of a dream weekend: Alex recently performed an opening DJ set at The Chainsmokers show (nearly 10K attendees!) in San Francisco—LED screens, crowd-surfing friends, and even a robot DJ trying to steal the show. But getting there wasn’t straightforward: he was already offered to open for another major artist the same weekend, and chasing the Chainsmokers slot meant taking a risk. We break down how our “maximize, don’t satisfy” mantra that guided the decision—and how the whole experience became a real-life negotiation, balancing opportunity with long-term relationships.

• Promotions vs. raises vs. brand-new offers:

• • Why companies usually put a cap on your raise by leveraging status-quo bias.

  • The hidden leverage in new job offers - and how sharing salary history undermines it.

  • Long game vs. quick win: why asking for a raise is a months-long campaign, not a one-email sprint.

  • Tactful transparency: what to say (and not say) if you’re courting external roles while staying on good terms internally.

• Action homework: Answer a recruiter DM this week - even if you love your job - to test your market value.
  

Huge gratitude to GoSpread.ai for the beautiful set-up and post-production magic. If you’re in SF and need a turnkey podcast studio, reach out to them: hello@gospread.co

In this episode, we share about Alex’s most exciting performance to-date for his side hobby, DJing. We also share exactly how we work with you:

• DJing for The Chainsmokers: Alex is on deck as the opening DJ for The Chainsmokers’ SF block party, and the two of us are gearing up to join Titanic’s End for our first-ever Burning Man.

• What “negotiation coaching” really looks like:
• Free 15–30 min consult on Zoom to see if we’re a mutually good fit and share some negotiation tips.
• One‑page Google‑Doc contract to minimize friction—sign and we’re off.
• Onboarding portal (via Beacons.ai) with your personal priorities, timeline, and all the details we need.
• Self‑paced video modules: our core negotiation philosophy, scripts for recruiter calls, written‑offer tactics, email templates, and more—for life‑long access.
• Tailored strategy calls with Gerta: live prep, email/text drafts, on‑the‑fly coaching, “therapist‑style” pep talks, and confidentiality you can trust.

• Pricing & ROI: flat fee + success fee (the delta between your initial and final offer) - why it pays to bring us in sooner rather than later.
• Real‑world case study: see how one mid‑career marketing candidate accidentally gave away his leverage - and how working with us early would have changed the game.

Whether you’re a C‑level exec, founder, or rising manager, learn exactly what it’s like to work with YourNegotiations.com, and why every minute of prep before a written offer can unlock tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars

For this week’s episode, we are sharing an interview that Gerta did with the Shift to Freedom Podcast. Led by transformational life coach Ben Easter, this podcast helps business owners reduce overwhelm, beat imposter syndrome, and lead with confidence and clarity.

In this conversation, Gerta and Ben dispel common negotiation myths, provide actionable insights, and share practical tips and strategies to transform negotiation outcomes from “dividing the pie” to “expanding the pie” - from identifying your priorities to learning the power of silence.

We covered topics including:

• Creative Value‑Adds: Identifying the multiple “chips” you can trade beyond price - start dates, deliverables, perks, reviews, PTO and more
• Intelligent Discovery: Research hacks - from reading between the lines to tapping mutual connections - to uncover what truly matters to the other side
• Achieving “Best & Final”: Exact scripts and cues for when they say their offer is non‑negotiable (and why it almost never is)
• Setting Your Boundaries: Clarifying your priorities and non‑negotiables in advance so you know exactly when to press and when to walk away
• Avoiding the People‑Pleaser Pitfall: Why extreme politeness can cost you - and when to bring in outside support or professional coaching

Connect with us here:

Website: https://www.yournegotiations.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yournegotiations/

Connect with Ben here:

Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/

Check out our free startup negotiation worksheet here:

https://www.yournegotiations.com/#worksheet

In this episode, we cover:

• Our “Messaging App Multiverse” and why choosing the right channel matters for different communities

• Whether unstructured banter builds rapport or just eats into your negotiation capital

• A deep‑dive case study: how a new‑mom’s breast‑milk delivery ask morphed into a $40K base‑salary win

• Three key tactics: strategic prioritization, timing your asks, and translating niche requests into straightforward dollars

We also share behind‑the‑scenes moments, including:

• Gerta’s Viber family group chaos vs. Alex’s Slack‑only business chats

• Our ongoing debate: chit‑chat first or cut straight to the chase?

• Alex’s early‑career lesson: negotiating time off for a wedding that didn’t need approval

Whether you’re navigating benefits, salary, or bespoke requests, you’ll walk away knowing exactly when to lean in on personal connection and when to zero in on the highest-impact ask.

In this episode, we cover:

• How “I don’t want to play games, just give me your number” is itself a negotiation move

• Exact scripts to deflect that request and get them to share their total compensation budget first

• Why the salary range on a job post rarely equals the company’s true internal budget

• The rare times it’s okay to name your number (competing offers, true peer‑to‑peer deals)
  

We also share stories from our week apart, including:

• One of us at a wild Tulum bachelor party, the other in a surprisingly serene co‑living house in SF

• Lessons from “Designing Your Life” on how to find your dream job

• “Weird Wednesdays” screening of Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind: surprise gong, mystery side‑quests, and memory‑themed letters mailed anywhere in the world

• A Valentine’s Day spent solo—why absence turned out to be the best reminder of what matters
  

Whether you’re negotiating a new role, consulting rates, or freelance gigs, you’ll walk away with the mindset and language to hold your cards close—and still build strong relationships.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why over-communicating is a career asset but a negotiation liability

• Exact scripts to deflect salary-history questions and ask for their budget first

• A real client story: turning a lowball salary-history request into leverage for a higher offer

• Critical mistakes to avoid: from sharing your numbers too soon to skipping the written offer

• Behind-the-scenes SF community highlights that shape our negotiation philosophy
  

Whether you’re navigating job offers, consulting contracts, or side-gig fees, this episode equips you with the mindset and language to negotiate like a pro.

We also pull back the curtain on our personal lives, including:

• Our 13-year anniversary sneak-out through Richmond’s best Asian dessert spots.

• Our Wellesley College origin story - that fateful first encounter on a tiny campus pathway in 2009.

• “Turtle vs. Ninja Turtle” therapy hacks for squashing small issues before they blow up.

• Adopting Fami, our non-binary mascot, to practice they/them pronouns and stand up for inclusion.

In this episode, we explore how the same mindset that helps you conquer FOMO in your social life can supercharge your negotiation power. We reveal how cultivating an “abundance mentality” lets you pause, ask smarter questions, and never undersell yourself.

We also talk about our community in San Francisco and give you a peek into our vibrant social lives here, including attending events with top tech leaders and robot DJs, friends who want to recreate the animated movie Up in real life, Korean traditions, and real snakes at a Lunar New Year party.

This episode covers:

• Why FOMO sabotages your negotiations and how to flip it into confidence

• The exact script to ask for their budget before you name your number

• A real negotiation that turned a ~$300 market-rate gig into $2,000

• Key pitfalls to avoid: from oversharing too soon to skipping the written offer

• Behind-the-scenes SF community highlights that inspire our approach

Whether you’re negotiating job offers, freelance rates, or simply want more confidence in asking for what you deserve, this episode arms you with the mindset and language to negotiate like a pro.

In this episode, we dive into one of the trickiest parts of the job offer process: the verbal offer. Many candidates mistakenly believe this stage means they’ve sealed the deal, but it’s actually where the stakes are highest. Learn why negotiating too early can backfire, and how to protect your leverage until a written offer is in hand.

We also unpack how small comments can unintentionally weaken your position, and explore why sharing your competing offers (even proudly!) can hurt more than help. Plus, a candid behind-the-scenes look at our approach to personal communication, and the importance of acting on inspiration when it strikes.

This episode covers:

• The false security of verbal offers
• Why oversharing hurts negotiation
• Real-world client examples from Google, TikTok & AI startups
• Our personal tools for tackling unspoken tension and staying inspired

Whether you're job hunting, negotiating, or just love insightful conversations - this one’s for you.