If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on their dating journey! Blaine gives insight into what her clients struggle with most, what makes them seek out her coaching, how to make it more likely that a man will approach you IRL, and more. Plus, she gives a plug for giving “nice guys” more of a shot - attraction can grow, y’all!

In Updates, the gals are fresh off of New Year's Eve: find out which plans Erica decided to do and how Ali’s hosting went. Plus, Ali shares highlights from her Paris trip with Skyline!

Where to find Blaine: On Instagram @datingbyblaine, on TikTok @datingbyblaine, at www.datingbyblaine.com.

Timestamps: Blaine joins us at around minute 27.

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It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune in as we discuss our best/worst dates (and kisses) of the year, best new movie, pop culture moment, place to meet people IRL…and more! PS apologies for the occasional ticking sound when Erica is talking in the topic section - we had some audio issues that should be resolved now!

In Updates, Erica has a bit of a NYE dilemma coming out of a great first date while Ali makes a new connection on Christmas Eve.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels over their holiday traditions, a poster questions whether he should have told his friend he doesn’t like her boyfriend, a guy comes back from my vacation to discover that his partner has left his apartment a total mess, and a couple disagrees about whether it’s okay for one of them to attend a rehearsal dinner alone.

In Updates, Erica encounters a very realistic scam attempt from a fake Bumble match while Ali is off on her Christmas markets adventure. Plus, the gals discuss the latest list of best/worst cities for dating from The New York Times.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexually fluid season of Are You The One? or from her company Little Gay Book Matchmaking. Dr. Frankie tells us about the specific challenges her queer clients face compared to other daters (and what parallels she sees!) along with giving advice on approaching dating IRL and coming into your own at a later age. We can’t wait for you to hear our conversation!

In Updates, Erica has yet another encounter from her past (what is the universe trying to say??) while Ali recounts her monthly surprise date with Skyline and looks forward to their Paris trip.

Where to find Dr. Frankie: On Instagram @drfrankiebashan on TikTok @drfrankiebashan at www.littlegaybook.com.

Timestamps: Dr. Frankie joins us at around minute 38.

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Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security guard?? Then, the gals answer 3 new questions. First, what to do if a match’s app profile disappears before your first date? Second, we give advice to a listener who is struggling with getting back onto the apps after a dating hiatus as the only single friend. Lastly, a listener is headed to a wedding where she’ll see an old fling - should she tell her current partner? Don’t forget you can submit questions (and updates!) of your own at findingmrheight.com/podcast!

In Updates, Erica has a ~magical~ blast from the past while Ali reveals what she’s getting Skyline for Christmas (and how they decided on gifts!). Skyline, if you’re listening to this, no you’re not.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 22.

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It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored guest that we had to bring her practical sex and pleasure tips to the main pod. You’ll come away with some amazing tips from this discussion including: navigating mismatched libidos (and why they may not actually be mismatched!), working on initiating sex when it doesn’t feel natural, testing out new things in the bedroom, working through intimacy with body insecurities, and more.

In Updates, Ali has a conversation with Skyline that might have been difficult for her in the past while Erica has a very meta first date that takes a turn.

Where to find Abigail: On Instagram @vibeslut, on TikTok @abigailjensen_, and on the Rat Girls Podcast.

Timestamps: Abigail joins us at around minute 42.

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Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of the types and the limitations. The gals then discuss their own (basically opposite, lol) personality types and how they impact relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Plus: What personality type is Skyline??

In Updates, Erica has an IRL encounter with a potential date while Ali recaps her surprise date night with Skyline.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, says yes! He’s taking us through his best flirting tips this week, all the way from approaching a stranger at a party to keeping the flirt going in a long-term relationship. You’ll come out of the episode with concrete tips designed to get you out there and flirting!

In Updates, Erica is back in LA and reflecting on how life has blossomed in her new city. Meanwhile, Ali returns from a weekend away with her friends where she was part of a couple for the first time ever.

Where to find Benjamin: On Instagram @benjamincamras, on TikTok @benjamincamras, & on the Flirtations Podcast.

Timestamps: Benjamin joins us at around minute 33.

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