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  • Fighting for Peace in Your Home [Cultivating Spiritual Growth in Your Home 2 of 5]

    Fighting for Peace in Your Home [Cultivating Spiritual Growth in Your Home 2 of 5]
    2024/08/20
    Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.

    One of the most frequent questions we're asked is how we maintain a spirit of peace as a family of five and all we have going on. "How do you carry such calm in your interactions with each other?" wrote one long-time listener. To begin, peace doesn't come without a fight.

    In this episode, we talk about practical ways you can war for and cultivate peace in your home.

    We talk about:
    • Why our bodies feel safer in chaos than peace
    • Specific ways to consecrate your home and use prayer as your greatest weapon in the war for peace
    • How to take dominion over what God has given you
    • Keeping short accounts of sin in our lives
    • Playing the long game when seeing the day-to-day overwhelm
    This series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Show Notes:
    Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Order a copy of the Famous at Home book:
    https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

    John Eldredge's Daily Prayer (Head of Household)
    https://wildatheart.org/pray

    Sign up for the Famous at Home Starter Bundle
    https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

    Watch this episode on YouTube:
    https://youtu.be/MyzmAb20Xrg

    Time Stamps:
    0:52 Introduction
    3:10 Why we use the words fighting and peace together
    7:15 Defining peace
    10:05 Peace according to Philippians 4
    14:20 Why we feel safer in chaos than we do in peace
    17:54 The spiritual and real life implications of not warring for peace in the here-and-now
    21:05 How it looks practically to war for peace
    23:10 How to make decisions for peace and walk in Jesus’ authority
    27:05 Prayers to pray to war for peace in your home
    30:36 Practical ways to pray and war for peace in your home
    42:30 Keep short accounts of sin in your life
    43:20 Playing the long game for your soul
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    48 分
  • Rethinking the Household [Cultivating Spiritual Growth in Your Home 1 of 5]

    Rethinking the Household [Cultivating Spiritual Growth in Your Home 1 of 5]
    2024/08/13
    Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.

    This series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Have you ever given thought to how your "household" is being defined? Or put another way, how often do you consider the direction your family is heading? Or the connectedness you feel with each other? What if our struggles as a family and the longings we have are tied to the post Industrial Revolution individualistic culture we find ourselves immersed in? Could there be a different way?

    In this episode, we talk about the meaning of the word "household" and how it applies to your family.

    We talk about:
    • Why it's important to be curious, not intimidated by the dissonance we feel.
    • How to let go of "the chase" and refocus on prioritizing your family cohesion.
    • How to discover and step into your family's uniqueness.
    • Why it's beneficial train your kids to be creators, not consumers.
    Show Notes:

    Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Order Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Put Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for YourTime, Attention, and Identity
    https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

    The Household and the War for the Cosmos by C.R. Wiley
    https://amzn.to/3DCMoDw

    Watch this episode on Youtube:
    https://youtu.be/J-ntnToREuE

    Time Stamps:
    0:58 Introduction
    4:28 Paying attention to your family environment
    6:28 What is the state of your family right now?
    10:35 The state of the American family
    15:12 The paradigm shift for our family
    19:38 A higher purpose as a family
    24:40 Finding your family’s unique identity for the Kingdom of God
    31:36 What are we chasing?
    37:12 How family mottos define who we are
    48:00 Teaching kids to be creators, not consumers
    51:40 Fighting for your marriage in building for the Kingdom of God
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    56 分
  • Becoming Teammates in Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 5 of 5]

    Becoming Teammates in Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 5 of 5]
    2024/08/06
    Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.

    Would you describe your spouse as your greatest teammate? It probably depends on the day, right? We all have opponents that war against the connection in our marriage and cause conflict. But how do we fight? Do we see the opponent for what it is, or do we make our spouse out to be the opponent?

    In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to name the opponent, talk about your dance, and take responsibility for how to engage with your spouse.

    They talk about:
    • The importance of finding out what's going on in your spouse's heart rather than what's going on between the two of you
    • Protective mechanisms and how they hold us back from communicating the truth of what we want from our spouse
    • Why taking 100% responsibility for your role in the conflict disarms your spouse
    • Practical ways to show up differently for your spouse

    We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Show Notes:
    How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
    https://shorturl.at/NtnCq

    Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

    Order a copy of Famous at Home:
    https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP

    Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
    https://youtu.be/bi8pi4motfY

    Time stamps:
    (0:30) Introduction
    (5:40) How to name your opponent
    (8:55) How our opponents become elephants
    (11:19) Feeling safety in the relationship
    (13:45) The one phrase that matters more than any other to becoming teammates
    (16:57) The role you play in conflict and how to identify your dance
    (20:25) When one spouse isn’t willing to change
    (22:25) Entering into and being repentant of your own actions
    (23:55) Addressing the very thing holding you back from drawing closer to your spouse
    (26:20) The most sanctifying verses for a healthy marriage
    (27:00) Our single greatest reason for how we’ve grown in our marriage
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    33 分
  • Sex Makes Everything Better: An Interview with Laura Dugger [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 4 of 5]

    Sex Makes Everything Better: An Interview with Laura Dugger [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 4 of 5]
    2024/07/30
    Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage. Joining us for a conversation about sex is our dear friend, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose specialization in graduate school was sex therapy, Laura Dugger.In this episode, Laura talks about how sex makes everything better. Wait until you hear the research! With honesty, vulnerability, and a solid dose of fun, Josh and Christi's interview with Laura includes:The hidden benefits of sexHow to talk to your spouse about sexReasons for, and how to, schedule sexIndividual differences when it comes to sexThe God-given purpose of sex in marriage We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformListen to this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/NzgcDR013P0RESOURCES MENTIONED BY LAURA DUGGER: Listen to the Savvy Sauce Podcast! hosted by Laura Duggerhttps://thesavvysauce.com/Dr. Jennifer Konzen podcast episode: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzenhttps://shorturl.at/mPQvW Visit The Art of Intimate Marriage Website: Access to Dr. Konzen's book, podcast, sex therapist training, and a marriage video series.https://www.theartofintimatemarriage.com/Listen to Dr. Douglas Rosenau podcast episode: Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenauhttps://shorturl.at/EfLZ8Read A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau: A guide to enjoying God's gift of sexual intimacyhttps://amzn.to/4cMWVfk Listen to Dr. Michael Sytsma podcast episode: Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsmahttps://shorturl.at/A2pHOListen to Francie Winslow podcast episodes: Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1https://shorturl.at/Mx9Iw Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2https://tinyurl.com/bddr6b58 Listen to Drs. Clifford and Joyce Penner podcast episode: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Pennerhttps://tinyurl.com/5n897dpn Time stamps:(0:38) Introduction(3:31) An introduction to Laura Dugger(6:00) Laura’s journey into becoming a sex therapist(8:15) Disclaimer about the sex conversation(9:33) Specific ways sex makes everything in your life better(11:28) Biblical foundation for sex(15:45) Addressing body image(21:11) Healthy ways to have conversation about sex(27:30) Common differences in couples(31:08) Purity culture, pornography, and rewiring our brains for healthy connection(33:35) Talking about desire discrepancy and scheduling sex(38:27) Testosterone in women and best time of day for sex(40:40) One piece of advice for husbands(42:44) One piece of advice for wives(44:54) How to know when to reach out for outside support(49:00) The last word
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    54 分
  • Talking About Hard Things in Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 3 of 5]

    Talking About Hard Things in Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 3 of 5]
    2024/07/23
    Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.

    Difficult conversations in marriage are inevitable. Whether it's parenting, sex, holidays, work schedules, or in-laws, all couples deal with "an elephant in the room." How can we best show up in these conversations? In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to talk about hard things in marriage.

    Here are some highlights:
    • How to identify your motive when starting a hard conversation and why it’s important.
    • How to set the tone in your conversations.
    • How to respond to your spouse without flipping your lid.
    • Ways to lead with a team approach and an "us against the world" attitude with your spouse.

    We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Show Notes:
    How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
    https://shorturl.at/NtnCq

    Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
    https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

    Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

    Order a copy of Famous at Home:
    https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP

    Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
    https://youtu.be/WQjPuCAACfk

    Time stamps:
    (0:15) Introduction
    (5:21) Hard topics we have in our marriage
    (6:25) Hard topics: In-laws, holidays, kids, sex, insecurity, habits, schedules, money, faith
    (9:50) The dance of being offended and flipping into defensive mode
    (14:56) Defending our idols at the expense of the relationship
    (18:12) Picking a fight when you need attention
    (20:03) 1. Start with connection
    (21:30) 2. Set the tone
    (23:35) 3. Lead with a team approach
    (23:24) 4. Own your part
    (25:00) 5. Come with the solution, not the problem
    (25:30) How to pray and bring the authority of heaven into the conversation
    (29:00) We, therefore, I…are you in?
    (31:15) Subduing division and praying goodness into conversation
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    34 分
  • The Emotionally Safe Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 2 of 5]

    The Emotionally Safe Marriage [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 2 of 5]
    2024/07/16
    Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.

    What is emotional safety? And how do you cultivate an emotionally safe marriage? In this episode, Josh and Christi define and describe emotional safety, talk about what an elephant is in marriage, and how to be your true self in hard conversations with your spouse.

    They talk about:
    • Approaching conversations in love rather than fear
    • Having an "us against the world" mindset
    • How to talk to your spouse about feeling emotionally safe

    We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Show Notes:

    How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
    https://shorturl.at/NtnCq

    Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
    https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

    Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

    Order a copy of Famous at Home:
    https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP

    Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
    https://youtu.be/PWqMTfAmFWQ

    Marriage Coaching with Josh and Christi:
    https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

    Time stamps:

    (0:55) Introduction
    (3:42) What is emotional safety?
    (6:48) Evaluating emotional safety in your marriage
    (11:45) How emotional safety plays itself out in marriage
    (13:40) Addressing elephants in marriage
    (14:30) Why we numb and avoid each other
    (15:48) Introducing safety back into the system
    (21:18) Emotional safety and relationship with God
    (21:48) Practical ways to reset nervous system even if your spouse is not on board
    (24:30) Disclaimer on physical safety
    (24:58) Continued ways to reset nervous system and introduce safety
    (27:24) Talking about sex in marriage
    (31:05) The hope and practical ways of introducing safety back into the marriage
    (35:25) Taking fear out of a marriage conversation, no matter the topic
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    42 分
  • Who Did You Marry? [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 1 of 5]

    Who Did You Marry? [Emotionally Healthy Marriage 1 of 5]
    2024/07/09
    Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.

    Have you and your spouse ever looked at each other and wondered, "Who did we marry?" Lewis Smedes once said, "My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wed—and each of the five has been me." It's amazing how much we change: sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better.

    In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the various "seasons" we go through as individuals and how those "seasons" influence our marriage. They also talk about practical ways to enter into your spouse's world in the good, bad, and ugly.

    They talk about:
    • How to prioritize what's going on within your spouse's heart more than what's going on between the two of you
    • Ways to empathetically step into your spouse's world
    • Practical ways to dream with your spouse and offer affirmation
    We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    Show Notes:

    How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
    https://shorturl.at/NtnCq

    Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
    https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

    Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

    Order a copy of Famous at Home:
    https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP

    Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
    https://youtu.be/MtMd2VDX9eI

    Time stamps:
    (0:43) Introduction
    (4:10) The versions of Josh that Christi has been married to
    (7:57) The single most important decision we make in this life
    (8:50) How we regulate each other in marriage to get healthy
    (11:35) The only way you’re going to help your spouse grow
    (14:30) An example of how to honor your spouse and change yourself
    (18:40) How our faith influences how we treat our spouse
    (20:32) Another example of honoring your spouse
    (22:41) How to affirm and receive affirmations from your spouse
    (24:29) Embracing curiosity, mystery, and dreaming together
    (28:24) Navigating the seasons of marriage
    (31:15) Subscribe to weekly devotional
    (32:00) Practical exercise for moving forward together
    (34:55) Getting to the “why” of the interest in the other person
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    41 分
  • The Spiritual Growth of a Father and Mother [On Becoming Great Parents 5 of 5]

    The Spiritual Growth of a Father and Mother [On Becoming Great Parents 5 of 5]
    2024/07/01
    Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.

    As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called “parenting?” And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how I’m engaging the task of “parenting?”

    In this episode, Josh talks about what he's learning from his own spiritual journey right now and proposes a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy).

    They are:
    Becoming (internal healing and growth).
    Present (external presence where others feel seen).
    In community (inviting others into our journey).

    Show Notes:
    Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup

    Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
    https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

    Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform

    Order a copy of Famous at Home:
    https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP

    Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
    https://youtu.be/wMDPVC6BDsc

    Time stamps:
    (0:50) Introduction of topic
    (3:28) What really matters when it comes to raising our kids?
    (6:15) What’s warring against us in raising our children?
    (7:08) Josh tells story of a revelation he got and how it’s shifting how he fathers
    (10:30) Fear, gratitude, and the neurobiology of our experiences based on Philippians 4
    (14:25) How are we experiencing Jesus in the here-and-now?
    (15:55) What happens when we pay attention to every detail and person we encounter
    (18:20) How the study of heaven influences how we parent and interact with others
    (19:50) Brennan Manning’s insight on true-self versus false-self
    (23:40) Introduction of the three stages of spiritual development of a parent
    (24:14) Stage 1: “Becoming”
    (28:30) What is the will of God for our lives?
    (30:45) Stage 2: “Present”
    (32:55) Stage 3: “In Community”
    (34:30) The types of people we surround ourselves with
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    39 分