Understanding Narcissism in Manufactured Conflict

In this episode, we dive into the mind of a narcissist to uncover why they seem to thrive on conflict and chaos. Ever wondered why narcissists can turn the simplest situation into a battlefield? This behaviour isn’t random; it’s calculated, and today, we’re pulling back the curtain to understand what’s really driving their need for drama.

We explore key tactics narcissists use to create conflict, such as twisting words, exaggerating situations, and outright fabricating stories. For example, they might turn a minor misunderstanding into a full-blown feud, all while playing the victim. Sound familiar?

We'll also discuss why this manufactured conflict is essential for their control. Narcissists use conflict to manipulate, distract, and keep people on edge. Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, colleague, or friend, understanding this strategy can help you recognise it for what it is and avoid being drawn into their games.

Plus, I’ll share real-life examples from my counselling practice.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer picture of why narcissists manufacture conflict and practical tips for protecting your peace. Tune in for strategies to help you step back, stay calm, and see through the chaos.


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Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.

If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com

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10 Behaviours of the Ageing Narcissist.

As narcissists age, their tactics and behaviours often shift, sometimes becoming more manipulative and harmful. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist, offering insights into what drives these changes and how they impact those around them.

You might notice that their charm no longer works as effectively as it used to, leaving them desperate for validation. Or perhaps they’re leaning even more heavily on guilt-tripping to maintain control, especially over family members. I’ll share real-life examples from my counselling practice, such as the ageing parent who weaponises their declining health to manipulate their adult children.

We’ll discuss the ageing narcissist’s deep fear of irrelevance, which can drive attention-seeking behaviours, and how their lack of self-awareness makes them even harder to reason with. From their refusal to take responsibility for past mistakes to their tendency to rewrite history to suit their narrative, you’ll learn how these behaviours are rooted in their fragile ego and fear of losing control.

If you’re dealing with an ageing narcissist in your life—whether it’s a parent, partner, or colleague—this episode is for you!

Tune in to better understand the complexities of the ageing narcissist and take one step closer to reclaiming your peace.

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Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.

If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com

To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
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How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I’ve been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you’ve spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own.

In today’s episode, we’ll break down what boundaries really are (hint: they’re not about being selfish, despite what a narcissist might say!) and why they’re critical for your recovery. We’ll talk about the common struggles survivors face when setting boundaries, like fear of conflict, guilt, or not knowing where to start.

I’ll share actionable tips for creating healthy boundaries—whether it’s with a narcissistic ex, a toxic family member, or even in new relationships—and how to stick to them without backing down. We’ll also discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback from a narcissist and why their reaction doesn’t define your worth.

If you’re ready to take your power back, protect your peace, and finally put yourself first, this episode is your guide. Let’s dive into the “how” of setting boundaries and start building the life you deserve.


If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx

You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here

You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here

Join me on Facebook here

Join the private Facebook discussion group here

Join me on Instagram here

https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson

Send us a text

Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.

If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com

To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon

I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee