In this episode, Kristian and the crew discuss what it’s like to be single in the Black Church regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. We’ll uncover in this conversation that those factors make a difference. We’re joined by two of our community members, BJ Jackson and Paul Best.

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Video Chapters

00:00 - Intro and Highlights

08:04 - Did not our hearts burn within us? - Part 1 Recap

12:30 - The One Rule

19:09 - Describe your experience as a single person in the Black Church

43:07 - Decentering Heterosexual Relationships

46:32 - Leave me out of your misery - Reaching for the Stars

1:02:10 - Jackie Hill Perry Levels of Repression

1:09:11 - The Masturbation Stigma

1:13:49 - How has Purity Culture impacted your relationships?

1:15:22 - Some single church mothers are closeted lesbians?

The Faith Community is a groundbreaking, inclusive faith community where the traditional meets the transformational. It exists to challenge harmful religious norms while creating a safe, affirming space for spiritual seekers of all kinds. Through virtual connection, theological interrogation, and an emphasis on love and self-acceptance, TFC helps its audience find abundant life and community without compromising their identity.