What does it mean to be a good parent?

If part of your job is to provide stability, then it can seem like even if your love relationship isn't fulfilling, it's best to grit your teeth and get through it -- at least until the kids are out of the house.

The truth is a lot more nuanced.

Consider the following, for example:

What are you role-modeling to your children if you stay in a relationship that's physically or emotionally barren? What are they learning from you and your partner about conflict and repair? About boundaries? About warmth and affection?

Would you want them to someday be in the relationship you're in?

One confusing constellation of this can be when you're great co-parents with your wife/partner, but, say, your sex life is dead. In other words you manage the household well together, but there's no passion. Another is when you have a difficult spouse/partner and feel concerned that if you're not around to protect the kids from her, issues will arise.

Here we delve into unhealthy (and healthy) relationship dynamics, whether "making it work" is a real thing, and what you impart to your kids daily, without saying a word.

Growing almost always requires discomfort, but here's the good news: When you choose to lean into growth, you're teaching your children the bravest lesson of all.

Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Have you experienced any of the following yourself, or been in a love relationship with a partner who did?

• You've held beliefs like, "I must be broken," or, "The world is completely dangerous."
• You constantly tested your partner's loyalty
• You've thought things like, "I'm too much and my needs are too much."
• You've played out patterns to the effect of: "If I meet your needs perfectly, maybe you won’t hurt me or leave me."
• You've experienced health issues like chronic pain, gastrointestinal issues, or chronic fatigue
• You've alternated between pushing others away or clinging tightly
• You feel confused about your relationship issues because when looking back on your childhood you've thought, "No one overly abused me, so why is this happening?"

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If so, you may be dealing with complex PTSD, also known as C-PTSD. Here we delve into what C-PTSD is, what it's not, and what to do about it.

We also discuss the reality that trauma is intergenerational by nature. If your parents or their parents didn't get what they needed, and if those folks don't do their healing work, they're extremely likely to pass it on. But you don't have to.

Whether you're coming with anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, or somewhere in between, know this: Healing is ALWAYS possible.

Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• "Developmental trauma can shape personality development."
• "They may deeply crave closeness while simultaneously fearing it."
• "This is the nervous system interpreting current stress as old danger."
• "Intimacy may be disrupted by this internal sense of danger that is hard to name."
• "Relationships can be a powerful source of repair."
• "Safe relationships can help reestablish trust, soften defenses, and over a period of time can support emotional regulation."
• "The body often holds what the mind cannot express."
• "It’s often intergenerational trauma playing out."
• "Trauma is both individual and collective."
• "Healing is absolutely possible. I have seen it!"

We all know the "rules" have changed when it comes to dating and relationships. There are few absolute in terms of how to relate to a dating or relationship partner, which begs questions like:

If not money, then what IS the modern man supposed to provide?

If you're a man, it may be hard to grasp what a woman truly craves from you. There's good news on this front, though: We women still need you! In fact, many would say we need healthy, passionate, masculine men now more than ever.

And there are two very specific things healthy, embodied women truly desire from men. Here we delve into those, and along the way touch on sexy time, how hot it is when a man has a strong backbone, and how to keep up with all the shifting dynamics going on when it comes to sex, love, and dating in the modern world.

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Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• Dear Men episode 262: Are you lonely?
• Dear Men episode 215: Are you intimidated by her big emotions? Here's what to do.
• Dear Men episode 329: How do you stay grounded when she’s upset or dysregulated?
• Dear Men episode 305: GuyTalk: Overcoming religious programming
• Dear men episode 327: Transforming shame into power

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• "How do I win in this?"
• "Can you provide me steadiness in a turbulent world?"
• "We men are being asked to show up more — with more complexity."
• "I just avoided conflict … deny, deflect, defend."
• “If we don’t have a capacity to attune and be present with ourselves, we can’t do it with a partner."
• "Emotional safety does not mean please and appease."
• "There’s not a lot we as a couple can do about that until I’ve worked with my own shame."
• "Women, more than ever, want to be polarized!"
• "Most people want to know their partner wants to f*** them!"