🎧 DAY 21: The Ugly Truth About 'Safe' Love (Your Brain Will Hate It) | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story

🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You're on a date with someone nice - really nice. They show up on time, ask thoughtful questions, and don't mention their ex once. But instead of feeling excited, you're bored. Your brain screams: Where's the spark? Suddenly you're tempted to text your emotionally unavailable ex just to feel something.

In this eye-opening episode of UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (your Nervous System Navigator) reveals why safe love feels boring at first when you're wired for chaos. Discover how to retrain your brain to crave calm connections, and why that "missing spark" might actually be your trauma bond detoxing.

Spoiler: Safety isn't boring - it's how real love begins.

⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG

00:00:00 – The "Too Nice" Date Paradox ("Why am I bored?")

00:01:15 – Chaos vs. Calm (How trauma wires us to mistake panic for passion)

00:02:01 – Christy's Safe Love Breakthrough ("It felt like coming home")

00:03:11 – How to Create Space for Safe Love (and healing)

00:04:27 – The Grounding Trio (Feet, breath, hug - rewire your nervous system)

00:05:52 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Chasing chaos instead of calm."

💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)

"Safe love isn't boring. It's healing. It's the kind of love that lets you exhale instead of holding your breath."

"Your brain isn't broken. It's just wired for your survival."

"That restlessness you feel when things are going well? That's your nervous system detoxing from chaos."

"Safety isn't the absence of spark–it's the foundation for real fire."

(Tag @CoachChristyHolt when you choose calm over chaos. 📲)

🔥 YOUR DAY 21 REBELLION: REWIRE FOR SAFETY

1. THE GROUNDING TRIO

👣 Root Down: Press feet into floor like you're growing roots

🌬️ Box Breath: Inhale (4), Hold (4), Exhale (4), Hold (4) - repeat 3x

🤗 Self-Hug: Say "I am here. I am whole. I am loved."

2. ADD TO YOUR F*CK IT LIST

🌀 "Chasing chaos instead of calm."

🔥 Burn it or scream it into a pillow.

3. INSTANT CALM SHIFT

🎶 Hit Play on Gravity by John Mayer | Rebellious AF Playlist https://bit.ly/loverebel

SHARE YOUR POWER 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your grounding practice + #PlotTwistEnergy

RESOURCES & LINKS

📖 LOVE, UNSTUCK BOOK: Rewire your love blueprint with more somatic tools and practical strategies: www.loveunstuck.com

🎙️ RELATED EPISODE: Spotting Success in Love: 20 Green Flags for a Happier, Healthier Relationship - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Spotting-Success-in-Love-20-Green-Flags-for-a-Happier--Healthier-Relationship-e2fstk5

🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Stop Pretending You're Low Maintenance ("Shrinking doesn't make you chill - it makes you invisible.")

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💌 RATE & REVIEW if this helped you crave calm.

💌 COMMENT BELOW: "What's ONE 'boring' green flag you're learning to appreciate?" 🚀

💌 TAG @CoachChristyHolt—your healing journey inspires others.

#LoveUnstuck #RewriteYourLoveStory #LoveRebel #ToxicLove #RelationshipAdvice

🎧 DAY 20: How to Want Someone Without Needing Them (It's Possible) | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story

🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You're on a date, sucking in your gut and filtering your words: "What if I'm too much? What if they don't choose me?" Here's the game-changer: Wanting someone is a choice. Needing them is a prison.

In this liberating episode of UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (your Sovereignty Coach) reveals how to desire someone without losing yourself.

Discover why your most magnetic self emerges when you stop contorting for love—and how to build relationships that feel like freedom, not fear.

Spoiler: "I don't need you, but holy sh*t, I want you" is the ultimate power move.

⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG

00:00:00 – The Date Night Spiral ("Am I enough?")

00:00:56 – Wanting vs. Needing ("Love isn't about completion—it's about choice.")

00:01:13 – Christy's Marriage Breakthrough ("I was abandoning myself")

00:03:37 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Needing someone to need me."

00:03:56 – The Roar Rebellion (Dance + "I choose myself first")

💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)

"Wanting someone is a choice. Needing them is a prison."

"Real sovereignty in love is saying, I don't need you, but holy shit, I want you."

"Love isn't about losing yourself. It's about finding yourself in the presence of someone who truly sees you."

(Tag @CoachChristyHolt when you choose want over need. 📲)

🔥 YOUR DAY 20 REBELLION: CHOOSE, DON'T NEED

1. THE SOVEREIGNTY TRIO

🎶 Hit Play on Roar by Katy Perry (Rebellious AF Playlist: https://bit.ly/loverebel)

💃 Dance Like Nobody's Watching: Move freely (no filtering!) while shouting: "I choose myself first!"

🌬️ Breathe: 3 deep inhales + "I am enough, just as I am."

2. ADD TO YOUR F*CK IT LIST

🚫 "Needing someone to need me."

🔥 Burn it or scream it into your pillow.

3. INSTANT MAGNETISM BOOST

✨ DM @CoachChristyHolt your "I chose myself!" win (lion emoji encouraged).

SHARE YOUR POWER 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your dance moves + #PlotTwistEnergy.

RESOURCES & LINKS

📖 LOVE, UNSTUCK BOOK: Your guide to wholeness and choosing a life and love that you truly love: www.loveunstuck.com

🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Safe Love Feels Boring (At First) (Why drama isn't chemistry.)

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💌 RATE & REVIEW if this helped you trade need for choice.

💌 COMMENT BELOW: "What's ONE way you'll choose yourself this week?" 🚀

💌 TAG @CoachChristyHolt—your sovereignty inspires others.

#LoveUnstuck #RewriteYourLoveStory #CreateYourHappy #HealthyAttachment #LoveYourselfFirst

🎧 DAY 19: Boundaries That Set You Free: When 'No' is a Complete Sentence | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story

🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You're sitting in a meeting when someone asks you to take on "just one more thing." Your stomach drops, your heart races–you want to say no, but the words stick in your throat. What if they think I'm mean? What if they stop liking me?

Here's your freedom ticket: Boundaries aren't walls—they're bridges back to yourself.

In this liberating episode of UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (your Boundary Boss) reveals why "no" is a complete sentence and how to protect your peace without apology.

Spoiler: Every boundary is really a "hell yes" to yourself.

⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG

00:00:00 – The Proposition Panic (When "no" sticks in your throat)

00:01:01 – Boundaries = Bridges ("They're how we let ourselves in")

00:01:30 – Christy's Divorce Breakthrough ("I was abandoning myself")

00:03:10 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Explaining myself when I say no"

00:03:51 – The Mirror Boundary Challenge ("I honour myself here")

💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)

"Boundaries and saying no aren't walls, they're bridges back to yourself."

"No is a complete sentence. You don't need to justify your needs."

"Boundaries aren't about shutting people out. They're about letting yourself in."

(Tag @CoachChristyHolt when you set a boundary without apology. 📲)

🔥 YOUR DAY 19 REBELLION: BUILD YOUR BRIDGES

1. THE BOUNDARY TRIO

📝 Identify: One situation where you've avoided setting a boundary (that text you haven't sent? That "no" you swallowed?)

🪞 Mirror Work: Lock eyes with yourself: "I honour myself by setting this boundary."

🎶 Hit Play on Confident by Demi Lovato (Rebellious AF Playlist: https://bit.ly/loverebel)

2. ADD TO YOUR F*CK IT LIST

🗑️ "Explaining myself when I say no."

🔥 Burn it or scream it into your car vents.

3. INSTANT BOUNDARY BOOST

✨ DM @CoachChristyHolt your "I said no!" win (thumbs-up emoji encouraged).

SHARE YOUR POWER 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your post-boundary glow selfie + #PlotTwistEnergy.

RESOURCES & LINKS

📖 LOVE, UNSTUCK BOOK: Your guide to building self-trust and creating healthy, happy relationships: www.loveunstuck.com

💡 AUTHENTICITY UNLEASHED COURSE: Master the art of setting boundaries that honour your true self while creating relationships that feel really freakin’ good. Learn to show up authentically, communicate your needs without guilt, and build unshakable self-trust. https://coachchristyholt.com/product/authenticityunleashed/

🎙️MORE PEOPLE-PLEASING & BOUNDARY SETTING RESOURCES: https://bit.ly/3S1frbT

🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Wanting vs. Needing ("How to desire someone without losing yourself.")

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💌 RATE & REVIEW if this helped you say "no" without guilt.

💌 COMMENT BELOW: "What's ONE boundary you're setting this week?" (PTA rebels unite! 🚀)

💌 TAG @CoachChristyHolt—your boundary wins inspire others.

#LoveUnstuck #PlotTwistEnergy #CreateYourHappy #Boundaries #SayNo