A chat about women and work. When talking about labor, we divide paid work from unpaid work, men’s work from women’s work, domestic labor from professional work, and work that is considered valuable versus work that is invisible. In a conversation that goes far beyond the pay gap, we examine what “work” means to women.

In this episode Elle and Natalie unpack the man-as-breadwinner myth, the working mother double bind, the varied reasons women exit the paid workforce, the mirage of the stay-at-home-mom life, and women’s true contributions to the world economy.

EPISODE LINKS

Teetads | Tik Tok

Cynthia Enloe Interview | Subject to Power

Globalization and Militarism | Cynthia Enloe

Gender Pay Gap | Pew Research

Why Women Leave Their Jobs | Forbes

Women in the Workplace Report | LeanIn

Willmar 8 | PBS

Willmar 8 | MN Historical Society

Penalty of Unpaid Work | UN Women

Maternity Leave | World Population Review

Working Moms work 2 ½ full time jobs | ABC7 NY

Paris Paloma Interview

Paris Paloma | The Late Show

CONTACT US

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

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Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Midnight Door

Theme Song by Moushumi

A chat about being single by choice. More and more women are opting out of not just marriage, but out of relationships with men altogether - and choosing new paths to economic independence, professional and personal fulfillment, and adventure - that does not include a man as part of the plan. Women are also connecting with each other across cultures and creating new, unconventional women’s communities at exponential rates - all while unsubscribing to patriarchal norms.

In this hour we talk about the act of de-centering men, the liberation women experience when going solo, the explosion of women-only travel, the rise of mommunes, and the increasing demand for women’s communities.

EPISODE LINKS

In Her Nature | Rachel Hewitt

Living by yourself | Anxiously Alej

Women Only Space | Briggygee

Stop Waiting | Healwithmegs

Solo Travel | Wonder Tours

Solo Travel | Women in the Wild

Feminist City Guide | Unearth Woman

Being Single Backlash | I am Jannah Santana

Communal Living | CoAbode

Communal Living | Commune

Mommune | NBC The Today Show

Dating Yourself | ChloBow

Not Looking for a Man | Rihanna

Golden Girl Gang Forum | Brigg

Co-Housing Houston

OWCH Women’s Community

Fempowerment App

CONTACT US

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover art by Reda Tomingas

Theme song by Moushumi

Music by Midnight Door

A chat about dating. In part two of our series on the 4B movement, Elle and Natalie take a read on what is happening in dating culture, listening to a diverse cross-section of women to try to understand why a growing number of women are saying no to dating.

EPISODE LINKS

Influence of Sex and the City | Emily the Recruiter

Hook-Up Culture | Cunty Chanel

Transactional Dating | Pure Michigangster

Backlash to Women’s Standards | Shawnda

Being Bitter vs Being Aware | Professional Sassatron

Internet Boyfriend | Joshua Summerfield

Self-Love Journey | Caitlin Checker

Women Benefit Men | Fashionably Divorced

Burning the Haystack | Crazylocks918

Burned Haystack Method | Jennie Young

Rising Standards | Jennifer Moxley

Bumble Ad Campaign | Daily Mail

RESOURCES

Are We Dating the Same Guy? | App

Tea for Women | App

FROM THE COMMONS

FiLiA is the largest international women’s rights conference in the world. They know that building a global sisterhood is essential for the dismantling of patriarchy. Learn more and buy your tickets for the October 10-12, 2025 conference in England at:

https://www.filia.org.uk

CONTACT

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Moushumi