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In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.

And I didn’t apologize.

This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.

I talk about:

• What really happened that day on the sidewalk
• How that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the past
• The truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorry
• The quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not to
• Why taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestral

This episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.

Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address.

Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.

In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.

I share:

• Why crying helped me realize what my soul is craving
• The emotional toll of always showing up for others
• Why some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start over
• Why self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessary
• A question that might help you get closer to your own self-love

This one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.