In the final episode of Becoming Whole, Josh and Sarah Claire explore the deep human longing for connection—especially among queer Christians navigating loneliness, embodiment, and chosen family. They unpack how intimacy grows through sacrifice, presence, and healing, offering practices that move us from disconnection into meaningful, lasting belonging.

CHAPTERS

00:00 | Introduction

03:35 | Defining Isolation and Intimacy

05:45 | Why This Movement Comes Last

08:40 | Broader Definition of Sexuality

10:30 | The Importance of Physical Presence in a Digital World

11:25 | Two Distortions: Sexual Repression and Sexual Flippancy

12:53 | Five Key Memories from Your Sexual Story

17:30 | Why Intimacy Requires Sacrifice

19:25 | Celibacy, Connection, and Erotic Love for God

21:20 | Commitment, Uncertainty, and the Barriers to Intimacy

26:15 | Intimacy is More than Sexual or Romantic

29:12 | Three Practices for Moving Toward Intimacy

35:35 | Final Reflections: Becoming at Home in Ourselves

39:31 | Credits

FOOTNOTES

Referenced Works:

• Deborah Hirsch, Redeeming Sex: Naked Conversations About Sexuality and Spirituality | 08:49

Music Featured:

• Way Back Home by Ben Parks (00:00)

• Leave It All Behind by Transient Friends (35:20)

Special thanks to Zac Wagner for sound engineering support.

Read the full Research Document here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Go_PRhhwvmNDm7QKJbT99Bi7kG5qbXff/view?usp=sharing

In this episode, Josh and Sarah Claire explore the shift from entitlement to humility, revealing how both privilege and deprivation can shape our sense of scarcity. Through stories, theology, and practical practices like fasting and listening, they invite us into a posture of humility rooted not in shame, but in belovedness and abundance.

CHAPTERS

00:00 | Introduction

02:42 | Defining Entitlement

06:00 | Deprivation and Second Adolescence in Queer Experience

09:02 | Entitlement from Privilege vs. Entitlement from Deprivation

13:54 | Defining Humility

17:11 | Repentance as a Shift in Perspective

18:35 | Three Practices for Moving Toward Humility

26:20 | Final Reflections on Transformation and Encountering the Full Trinity

29:55 | Credits

• FOOTNOTES
• Guest Contributors:
• • Sarah Patterson, Track Leader of Tyndale Seminary's DMin in Spiritual Formation | 28:54

  Music Featured:

  • Fragile by Ben Parks | 00:00
  • Somebody to Hold by Drum & Co | 26:20

  Read the full Research Document here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Go_PRhhwvmNDm7QKJbT99Bi7kG5qbXff/view?usp=sharing

In this deeply personal episode, Josh and Sarah Claire explore the fourth spiritual movement: the journey from resentment to gratitude. Against the backdrop of Josh’s own unfolding experience with relational pain, they discuss the role of anger, forgiveness, and the very real barriers to healing that queer Christians often face. They unpack the meaning of resentment, how it forms in response to injustice, and how true gratitude is not a bypassing of pain but an act of grace-infused transformation.

CHAPTERS

00:00 | Introduction

07:02 | Defining Resentment and Gratitude

11:45 | The Unique Resentments Faced by Queer People

18:15 | The Danger of Self-Righteousness

19:42 | Jonah, Nineveh, and God's Unwanted Mercy

24:50 | The Connection Between Shame and Resentment

27:45 | Belonging, Security, and Significance: The Roots of Perceived Enemies

31:20 | Releasing Control and Becoming Receivers

36:48 | Forgiveness as a Practice, Not a Moment

39:53 | Josh's Journey with Forgiveness and Resentment

43:47 | Forgiveness Rooted in God’s Justice and Our Own Forgiveness

49:13 | Three Practices to Move from Resentment to Gratitude

56:35 | Final Reflections for Pastors and Directors

60:05 | Credits

FOOTNOTES

Guest Contributors:

• Sarah Patterson, Track Leader of Tyndale Seminary's DMin in Spiritual Formation | 58:05

Referenced Works:

• Eve Tushnet, Tenderness (Chicago: Wiseblood Books, 2020) | 18:20, 38:36, 44:15, and 50:13 on forgiveness, resentment, and God's compassion.

• Alan Downs, The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World (Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2005) | 17:20 and 43:26 on gay male anger and the power of forgiveness.

• Dan Kida, sermon at Providencia WPB | Quoted at 28:05: “An enemy is anyone who threatens my belonging, security, or significance.”

• The Chosen, Season 4 | 41:06

• C.S. Lewis, The Last Battle (New York: HarperCollins, 2001) Note: First published in 1956 | 53:40

Scripture

• The Book of Jonah | discussed at 19:42–23:35

• Exodus 32:6 | 22:07

• The parable of the Pharisee and tax collector (Luke 18:9–14) | 18:20

Music Featured:

• Bitter Mint by Emily Blaylock | 03:22

• Change by Emily Blaylock | 56:10

Read the full Research Document here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Go_PRhhwvmNDm7QKJbT99Bi7kG5qbXff/view?usp=sharing