Ariel Sommers is our amazing guest who I’ve personally worked with myself. She’s an rRest Practitioner, Coach of Coaches, Motivational speaker, Mom, and wife to a household of boys.

She spent 15 years as a health and fitness guru, but found everyone wanted her to do the work for them, instead of with them.

As an rRest coach, she is now here to help people as they do the work to free themselves from intergenerational trauma, societal pressures, and their own limiting self beliefs.

“Trying to describe rRest is like trying to describe an orgasm to someone who’s never experienced it. How do you tell somebody the magic that is gonna be released from their body if they’ve never had one”

~ Ariel Sommers

Ariel tells us about rRest, which allows us to get into your mind and silence that inner critic. As women we all have that inner critic who tells us we’re not good enough, we’re not worthy … rRest finds the root cause of that story and pulls it out by the roots. This allows us to get rid of the story and heal it through forgiveness and allowing new positive growth to happen. 

“Fail stands for Finding Answers In Learning”

~ Ariel Sommers

This is a deep conversation touching upon childhood moments that become traumas that need to be healed and ways to heal trauma and betrayal.  

TUNE IN HERE.

Connect with Jenni:

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.

Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.

Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.

Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

Connect with Ariel:

Learn more about Ariel and rRest Here

Schedule a session Here

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Carol Juergensen Sheets, widely known as Carol the Coach, is our fabulously audacious guest today.

She is a legend in the community of recovery from sex addiction and working with partners of sex addicts. She's one of my personal sheroes and I'm honored and thrilled to have her on the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast.

Carol is a mental health therapist who has been treating individuals and couples for over 41 years. She is a certified sexual addictions counselor and certified partners of sexual addiction trauma specialist.

She trains clinicians and coaches nationally and internationally, and believes that her partner-sensitive treatment approach enhances treating sexual addiction and partner trauma in the relationship.

Her style assists couples in healing the shame and pain of sexual addiction and she uses post-traumatic growth to emphasize a client’s strengths.

Carol hosts podcasts and YouTube channels, and has just released her third book called Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal.

Her latest book informs couples on the methodology behind ERCEM – Carol’s revolutionary Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model – to help the couple heal together. 

Carol the Coach has decades of wisdom to share with us.

We discuss what led each of us to APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), which Carol is now both Treasurer of their board and Supervisor to clinicians and coaches.  Carol joined APSATS after making a profound observation of her clients:

"... My sex addicts were getting better and my partners weren't, and I just said, 'you know what - we have got to change up this field and we've got to get them more resources'...And what do you do when you want to change the world? You change yourself."

~ Carol the Coach

We talk about the different healing phases from partner betrayal, and how Carol works with couples to heal from sexual betrayal.

You won't want to miss this fascinating conversation from one of the leaders in the betrayal trauma space.  

xoxo, Jenni

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Connect with Carol:

Purchase Carol's new book Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal  here. 

Learn more about the work that she does here.

Podcast: Sex Help with Carol the Coach

YouTube: Sex Help with Carol the Coach

Connect with Jenni:

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.

Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.

Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.

Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

Sara Chizek is a grief and sensuality coach. After losing her father at the young age of four led her through many years of numbness, she finally learned how to turn her grief into her superpower.  Now she helps other women move through their own grief in order to find joy and freedom on the other side.

Sara leads grief workshops and group and individual coaching programs to empower others to harness the energy of their grief and turn it into pleasure, passion, and power.

So, you immediately know why I had to have her on the podcast to talk to us! Moving through grief is a huge part of finding Beauty After Betrayal.

Sarah and I talk about the constraints around grief that society puts on women as well as our general reluctance to explore the deeper places within ourselves where we store our grief.  

Grief can be exhausting and overwhelming, and we may think that by not acknowledging it we can avoid the pain – but the truth is, that until we work through it, grief is going to completely run the show.

"Grief is such a sneaky bitch."  ~ Sara Chizek

Sara and I explore the journey of how we can use the powerful energy of grief to transform our lives and the world around us.

Her work focuses on the importance of creating a safe container for women to move through grief so they can learn how to access the next thing - joy.  She gives women permission to be powerful, wild, sensual, and fully empowered to own their entire range of emotions.

Join us as Sara shares her tips and tools for moving through grief, and how one of the most profound ways we can move and release grief is through our bodies.

TUNE IN HERE.

"I like to think of (grief) as like an iceberg, and we just slowly thaw it out, because there isn't that quick fix...

I hope your listeners take comfort in the fact that this journey does get to be your own... you get to move at the pace that feels right to you..." ~Sara Chizek

xoxo, Jenni

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Connect with Jenni:

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.

Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.

Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.

Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

Connect with Sara:

Join the Glowing Goddess Membership for a monthly grief release party and more!

Come hang out with her on Instagram.

Current programs can be found at www.sarachizek.com

Facebook Community to Vent/Release and Be Witnessed: 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/swampingcircle

Sara Fernandez shows up in this week's episode, fully in her truth, and courageously sharing her powerful story with all of us.

I met Sara while we were both fundraising for Truth Be Told – a nonprofit organization that provides transformational trauma-response programs for women who are or have been incarcerated.

(Check out Episode 27 where I interview Angie Hejl, who is on the board of directors of Truth Be Told and has her own powerful story to tell.)

Sara is a mom, a career woman, an entrepreneur, and a social influencer. And sister, does she have a story to tell.

Like many of the women I work with, she experienced betrayal trauma from romantic relationships but realizes that her journey with trauma actually started much earlier in her precious life. 
 

"We talk about people being spoon-fed... well, those who had received healthy love on a spoon, there were others who were licking it off of knives. The bar gets set as children. We will continue to accept what we only know. We were not shown more."

Her unresolved trauma carried her through a series of toxic and abusive relationships, which sadly extended to the abuse of her children.  

When her youngest daughter tragically passed under suspicious circumstances, she found herself not only utterly devastated and heartbroken but also sentenced to prison.

Even though her trauma and discoveries of abuse continued after her release, she carried on and found the strength to show up in a healthy and loving way for her children and for herself.

Sara has done the work. She has been through therapy.  She has been a strong and loving mama to her children. She has moved beyond toxic and abusive relationships.  She has taken her life back and found purpose and presence. 

Literally days away from what would have been her daughter's 18th birthday, she graced us with her presence, with her truth, and with her beautiful and open heart.

Her transparency and her truth-telling will undoubtedly open your heart as well. Tune in beauties.  You don't want to miss this one.
 

xoxo, Jenni

Sweet listeners, you are in for one hell of a great story today on the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast.

I have the incredible, charismatic, energetic, inspirational, and drop-dead gorgeous, Bella, who is joining us to share her comeback story.

Coming out of a childhood rife with neglect and abuse, she thought she had found her Prince Charming when she met her then-husband. Bonding over their similar childhood traumas, and wooed by his charm and good looks, she thought a marriage with him was her ticket to breaking the abusive cycle of her past.

Sadly, it turned out to be just another version of the trauma she knew all too well.

Bella shares with us the 3 "big bombs" that broke apart the facade of her fairytale. From discovering porn videos, to finding a Craigslist sex solicitation ad, to a tragic act of violence, she weaves a story of the lies, delayed disclosures, half truths, and gaslighting that unraveled her relationship.

"There were so many red flags, could have made a scarf with them." ~ Bella

Join us as we talk about the societal and cultural pressures to "keep your man", the painful tears in your own familial and social circles when you dare to break the code of conduct of staying and staying silent, and the strength and happiness you find when you finally set yourself free and claim the life you deserve.

Bella shares some incredible wisdom with us as she talks about the many gifts that have come on the other side of betrayal. One of the most precious to her has been blazing a trail for her children and showing them, through her own actions, what being brave and a healthy life really looks like.

And she found love again.

As it turns out - there is love after betrayal. There are good men out there. There are a lot of "green flags," too. And you know what? Happiness looks great on her.

"I didn't get to choose my trauma. I didn't get to choose the circumstances around my birth. But I got to choose my healing."

~ Bella

xoxo, Jenni

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Connect with Jenni:

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.

Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.

Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.

Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!

Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

Okay, beautiful.  I need to let you know that I'm just fully owning that not only am I the Queen of Intimacy... I'm also the Genius of Love (cue Tom Tom Club), and my passion in this life is to help other women heal and find the love that they so deeply deserve.

On this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast, I'm going to break down the reasons why you deserve more from dating and how you can do it differently this time (yes, you really can!).

I am offering an exciting new workshop next week called...Dating For More: Do Dating Differently. Get the Love That You Deserve.

This workshop will teach you everything about how to date for more, how to do it differently than you've been doing it, and how to finally get the love you deserve.

Yes, for real.

The top 10 reasons you need to sign up for the Dating For More Workshop on May 11-12 are listed below.  Don't cheap out though! You'll definitely want to tune in to the podcast episode to hear me break down each one and explain how it's holding you back in love.

1. You need to understand your relational pattern.

2. You've got to uncover your limiting beliefs.

3. Identifying your core values will help guide your dating decisions.

4. Know your limits in terms of sex.

5. You've got to deal with your shit around sex.

6. Your nervous system is going to freak out.  Learn what to do when it does.

7. Nice is not an upgrade – why settling is not an option.

8. How to trust yourself to make good decisions.

9. We've got to bust the myth of codependency.

10. You think you've got to be totally healed before you move on.
(Spoiler alert: it's not true. You're more ready than you think.)

Want to know more?  Tune in!

More importantly, want to learn how to finally get the love you deserve? 

Sign up for the workshop!  Trust me, this is one you do not want to miss.

You can date differently this time.
You can do this work.
You can have hope again.
You can heal.
You can rise.
You can have the love you want.

There is always more love for you. This workshop will teach you how to get it.

Dating for More Workshop:

Do Dating Differently.  Get the Love You Want.

Wednesday, May 11 & Thursday, May 12, 2022

1:00 - 2:30 PM CST

$27!!

SIGN UP NOW!

Other Ways to Connect with Jenni:

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.

Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.

Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.

Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!

Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

This week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast is all about introducing you to a labor of love that my team and I have been working on for almost a year now.

We have created a quiz!

I mean, who doesn't love quizzes?  It started with the ones we used to take in Cosmo, and now we get to take them online about anything and everything.

I love quizzes!

Mine is called "Do You Have Betrayal Trauma from a Romantic Relationship?"

I'm so excited because I have been wanting to give this resource to my community and clients for years.  There are so many women out there who are struggling with, or healing from, betrayal trauma. As you’ve heard me say so many times, we heal from betrayal in stages. 

Stage 1 is Safety & Security – these women are in the rawest, most painful time of their lives.  They have discovered their partner's sexual betrayal and are still reeling from it.  They need boundaries and to learn how to care for their nervous system.  They need a lot of sisterhood and a lot of support.

Stage 2 is Remembrance and Mourning – this stage is a time of reflection and going inward.  This is where women take a deep look at their relationship patterns and remember what happened to them and what they didn't get that they needed as little girls.

Stage 3 is Reconnection – with themselves and with other people.  This is all about how to rebuild their life, and how to reclaim and rediscover themselves. This is where you might start to think about dipping your toe in the dating pool again but know you still have some work to do on yourself.

After Stage 3, women are ready to really lean into reconnecting with their sexuality, creating everyday intimacy in their relationships, and learning how to really LIVE again.  After traveling along this entire pathway over many years, this is the stage where I am now.

You can get there too.  But first you need to meet yourself where you are so you can get the resources and support that you need.

Well, guess what?? You can do that RIGHT NOW with the quiz!  It will ask you a series of questions and sort you into one of four archetypes.

Tune in to the podcast episode to hear more about the four different archetypes in detail.

And go take the quiz!  I would love to hear what you think about it.  Were you surprised by the archetype you were sorted into?  Hit reply and let me know!

Xoxo, Jenni

Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?

TAKE THE QUIZ!

I started the Beauty After Betrayal podcast because I wanted to share women's stories of hope and healing.  My desire was that it would reach other women out in the world so they would know that they are not alone in their experiences, and to give them hope.

Sometimes our life experiences can make us feel like we don't deserve, or that we've been cut off from, all the juicy stuff in life – pleasure, desire, sex, intimacy, and more.

Well, I'm here to say, as is my guest today, that there is hope, healing, and goodness that is still available to you regardless of your story.

One of my clients, Ellyn, is with us this week and I am so honored that she is going to share her story with all of us. It's a story of betrayal and the journey into healing that helped her claim her big comeback.

Ellyn starts her story with her D-Day.  She was on a weekend retreat with her ex where they were working on their marriage and their sex life.  Before this point, she had always thought the issues in her marriage were her fault... because that's what her ex continually told her.

A disclosure during that retreat blew the lid off of their marriage, and as she put it – "the veil dropped."  She was finally able to put the pieces together of what the real problems in their partnership were.  The porn, the affairs, the emotional abuse, the gaslighting... she broke through all of it with intense clarity and the disclosure actually provided her a moment of relief - she was not crazy.

From this life-changing moment of realization, truth and clarity, Ellyn began her journey back to herself.  She says that the first thing she had to be willing to do was look at herself and go within to start her healing process.

"I spent so much time over there trying to fix him, and putting my life on hold, that I forgot there was a 'me'." ~ Ellyn

I invite you to listen to Ellyn's story as she outlines her painful but rewarding path to healing. It's a story you might recognize yourself in. Maybe it will even inspire your own comeback story.

Xoxo, Jenni

Connect with Jenni:

Join her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in a private community of women who are ready to embrace their right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life!

Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!

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