BYOLC S1E7 Emotional Fears

Ever feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop—even when life is good? Or like you crave connection but secretly fear being fully seen? In Episode 7, we’re pulling emotional fears into the light.

Hosts Bretagne and Anike dive deep into the quiet, powerful fears that don’t come from danger—but from vulnerability, joy, and intimacy. These emotional fears are sneaky. They show up as overthinking, emotional walls, ghosting, people-pleasing, or sabotaging happiness when things finally feel right.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What emotional fears are and how they differ from other types of fear

• The psychology behind fears of intimacy, being alone, and being happy

• How emotional fears are disguised as logic or self-protection

• Real Talk questions that help you spot these fears in your own life

• Self-coaching prompts to transform fear into emotional courage

  Coach Yourself Segment:
  Includes powerful journal prompts and affirmations to help you rewire your relationship with vulnerability, joy, and emotional connection.

Quote:“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate... It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” – Marianne Williamson

BYOLC S1E6 Limiting Fear vs Helping Far

In this empowering episode, we delve into the dual nature of fear—how it can either hinder or propel us forward. Hosts Bretagne and Anike explore the concepts of healthy (healing) fear versus limiting fear, sharing personal stories and practical strategies to harness fear as a tool for personal growth.

Key Topics Covered:

• Identifying the difference between healing and limiting fear

• Understanding fear's role in personal development

• Techniques to transform fear into a catalyst for change

• Self-coaching exercises to navigate fear effectively

Join us as we uncover how to turn fear from a barrier into a bridge towards your goals.

BYOLC Podcast S1E5

Have you ever felt deeply let down by someone you trusted—parents, a partner, a sibling, a boss? In this powerful episode, Bretagne and Anike dive into the raw emotions and hard truths behind personal failure, betrayal, and the path to forgiveness.

From uprooting moves to broken trust, we unpack the victim mindset, the role of personal responsibility, and why forgiveness is not about excusing behavior—but about freeing yourself. We explore the Phases of Forgiveness, the emotional weight of holding grudges, and practical healing tools like “The Healing Code” and “The Little Red Tin” ritual.

You’ll learn:

• What forgiveness is vs. what it’s not

• How your brain relives past pain as if it’s happening now

• How to identify hidden grievances and emotional stress

• Bretagne’s step-by-step forgiveness framework

• Reflection questions to coach yourself through the healing process

  Affirmation: “I can imagine a world where I no longer let past events affect my future.”

Whether you're in the thick of it or reflecting on old wounds, this episode invites you to reclaim your power, shift your story, and make peace with the past—on your own terms.

Be Your Own Life Coach | Episode 4: How Childhood Failure Shapes Adult Identity

"Remember your first big failure as a kid? Maybe you flunked a test, forgot your lines in the school play, or got picked last for kickball. Today, we explore how those small childhood fails carry big messages that still whisper in our adult lives." – Bretagne

In this playful yet powerful episode, we're digging into the emotional roots of childhood failure—and how those moments quietly influence our adult lives. Whether it’s becoming a perfectionist, avoiding feedback, or constantly apologizing, chances are the story started way back when.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why childhood failure feels so big and permanent

• How school, family, and culture shape our emotional response to failure

• The link between early embarrassment and adult behavior patterns (hello, imposter syndrome)

• Personal and hilarious stories from Bretagne and Anike—because healing doesn’t have to be heavy

• How to reframe those old moments with wisdom instead of shame

Coach Yourself Segment:
Get guided through journal prompts like:

• What failure still makes you hold back today?

• What belief did you form about yourself in that moment?

• What would your wiser, adult self say to your younger self now?

Be Your Own Life Coach | Episode: The Failure of Education

"Ever feel like school failed to prepare you for actual life? You're not alone—and you're not stuck." – Bretagne

In this eye-opening episode, we dig into the cracks of the U.S. education system and how its industrial-era roots prioritized obedience over curiosity. From the overemphasis on memorization and standardized tests to the glaring absence of life skills, emotional intelligence, and creative thinking—this system wasn’t designed to empower free-thinking individuals. It was built to produce workers.

What we explore:

• The hidden history of our education system

• Why critical thinking was left out of the curriculum

• How outdated teaching models impact society today (hello, groupthink and fear of failure)

• The emotional toll of not being taught how to think—only what to think

• Why it's never too late to reclaim your education

Featuring deep reflection questions like:

• What do you wish school had taught you?

• How has fear of "not knowing" shaped your adult life?

• What belief about learning no longer serves you?

Plus, in our “Coach Yourself” segment, you'll get practical prompts to start learning again—on your terms. Because learning isn’t a system; it’s a personal revolution.

Tune in and ignite your inner student. You’re not behind—you’re right on time.

Episode 2 – Failure by Omission: What Are You NOT Doing That’s Holding You Back?
In Episode 2 of the Be Your Own Life Coach podcast, we dive into a powerful concept that quietly undermines personal growth: failure by omission. This episode explores the hidden cost of inaction—when fear, silence, and hesitation stop you from moving forward. Are you holding back from speaking up? Avoiding a decision? Stuck in endless reflection without execution?

We break down the psychology of avoidance, the role of fear in self-sabotage, and the subtle trap of staying in “soft action” mode—thinking, planning, brainstorming—without ever making a real move. You’ll also get a guided self-coaching segment to help you break through paralysis and shift into empowered action.

This episode is perfect for anyone ready to take control of their mindset, overcome fear, and start coaching themselves into momentum and clarity.

In today's episode of Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, we confront the real reasons behind failure — and they might surprise you. It's not just bad luck or outside circumstances; it's often your own actions (or habits) that quietly pull you off track.

We'll uncover the critical mistakes, self-sabotaging patterns, and unconscious behaviors that keep you stuck. More importantly, you'll learn how to spot them early, interrupt the cycle, and build new habits that set you up for real, lasting success.

This is your wake-up call — a chance to take radical ownership of your life, course-correct with intention, and coach yourself toward the comeback you deserve.

Tune in now to start mastering the small daily decisions that either build your future — or break it.