How do you become a better listener when emotions are running high—and the urge to interrupt takes over?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who wants to stop interrupting his spouse during tense conversations—but finds it hard to stay quiet when big feelings are stirred up inside.

Angela explores:
• Why interrupting often stems from caring deeply—not from a lack of interest
• How emotional discomfort drives the urge to respond too quickly
• The role of the “inner translator” in distorting what your partner is actually saying
• Why our inner dialogue can make us feel criticized—even when no criticism is intended
• How reflective listening and intentional breathing help interrupt the urge to interrupt
• Why understanding does not require agreement—and how different perspectives deepen intimacy

If you’ve ever found yourself talking over your partner, jumping to defend yourself, or struggling to truly listen when it matters most, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate roadmap for building emotional capacity and becoming a more attuned, responsive listener.

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✫ Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

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In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who spent 15 years in a marriage marked by gaslighting—and is now left questioning whether he was truly the problem all along.

Angela explores:

• What gaslighting actually is, and why it’s so damaging

• How gaslighting erodes your ability to trust your own reality

• Why people who worry about being good are rarely the problem

• How internalized voices of abusive partners keep us stuck in cycles of self-doubt

• Why proving your goodness never leads to healing—and what to do instead

• Practical tools for reclaiming your inner trust and building a compassionate relationship with yourself

If you’ve ever struggled to trust yourself after emotional abuse, this episode offers grounded, hopeful guidance for finding your way back to your own heart.

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✫ Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

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In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who’s grown through self-reflection and personal responsibility but feels stuck with a spouse who avoids doing the same.

Angela explores:
• Why trying to convince your partner to change often backfires
• The difference between blame and honest self-reflection
• What emotional responsibility looks like in healthy relationships
• How to speak your truth without getting pulled into defensiveness
• Why it’s not your job to manage your partner’s growth
• What to do when your partner’s behavior hurts you—and they won’t acknowledge it

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by a partner who won’t own their part in relationship struggles, this episode offers clear, compassionate guidance for finding your voice, setting boundaries, and letting go of what isn’t yours to carry.

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✫ Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.
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