In this episode, we explore the intersection of ADHD and the mental load in relationships, uncovering the hidden costs of imbalance and how societal norms often add to the strain. Drawing on years of teaching experience, we discuss strategies to engage interest-based brains and tackle resistant behaviors—whether with middle schoolers or partners.

We dive into how gamifying emotional labor can help ADHD brains build lasting habits, why unlearning outdated gender roles is crucial, and the difference between skill and will when addressing mental load challenges. This conversation is packed with practical tools and real-life examples for anyone navigating ADHD or seeking balance in their partnerships.

Whether you're managing ADHD in your own life, supporting a partner with ADHD, or striving for a more equitable division of labor, this episode offers insights to help you take the next step.

I can’t believe it took me 10 episodes to talk about Fair Play! This system, based on Eve Rodsky’s book, has been a game changer for my family and my work. In this episode, I break down how the Fair Play Method helps partners create more equitable systems for managing home and family life—especially when ADHD is part of the equation.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why equity (not equality) is the key to sharing responsibilities in a way that works for both partners.
• How Fair Play’s design naturally supports ADHDers with structure, ownership, and clear communication.
• The importance of carving out time for personal passions, aka your "unicorn space."
• The four ground rules that guide Fair Play and why they matter.
• How societal norms around time, work, and caregiving contribute to burnout—and what we can do to unlearn them.

I also share my personal journey of moving from burnout to a more balanced system with my partner, plus practical tips for starting where you are and figuring out what matters most to your family.

🎧 Tune in now and start building a more equitable home life.

In this episode, I sit down with my 12-year-old friend to chat about our favorite books, the joy of discovering stories, and how reading can be an incredible way to connect with others. We explore everything from fantasy series like Aru Shah to the emotional depth of Remarkably Bright Creatures. Along the way, we share tips for finding books you’ll love—even if you think you’re not a “reader.”

If you’re looking for book recommendations for kids, adults, or families to enjoy together, this episode is packed with inspiration. Plus, we discuss the value of trying new genres, using audiobooks to hook reluctant readers, and how trusting relationships can guide reading choices.

Books mentioned include:

• The Aru Shah Series by Roshani Chokshi
• Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir
• Children of the Fox Series by Kevin Sands
• Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt
• Life of Pi by Yann Martel

Whether you’re a book lover or someone searching for the perfect gateway read, this episode will leave you with plenty of ideas and a reminder that the right book can make all the difference.

Tune in, grab a cup of tea, and let’s talk books!