Kim (SO/SP 8w7 863) joins us for an intimate and unguarded exploration of the inner world of Eight — where sovereignty is survival, connection is a gamble, and straight talk is an act of love. From the first moments, Kim’s presence is unmistakable: a force of nature, all-in from the outset, inviting others to meet her at full throttle. We explore the emotional paradox at the heart of the Social Eight — the innocent hope that others will meet her with the same raw honesty she offers, the crushing self-blame that follows when that trust proves misplaced, and the instinct to amputate not just relationships but parts of her own soul in self-protection. We delve into the Eight’s preemptive numbing, the hardened stance of being the gatekeeper of her world, and the quiet grief of being valued only for what she gives — not for who she is. Kim’s story is a vivid portrait of Eight’s vulnerability beneath the armor, and of the slow, courageous return to wholeness.

LINKS

Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@UCPiABQQQE4Ret7cwmy-GmRA

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

2:08 - BOOM; here it is, 8w7 energy

6:41 - “I’m not a law of nature, I’m a force of it"

14:31 - Rejection core; cutting parts off, self-hatred

20:16 - Living as a social hexad type in a world of attachment types

26:41 - 8 and naiveté

34:35 - Social controlling, “I’m the queen of the chess board”

45:40 - Black and white mindset, 8s relationship to anger

54:07 - “You care about what I am, not who I am”, rejection and usefulness

1:02:08 - Anger vs. indifference and their role in care

1:06:52 - Understanding delusional or realistic boundaries

1:13:16 - Apologetic 8, integrity

1:22:00 - Forgiveness and innocence

1:26:11 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine
Edited by Kristen Oberly
Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/
Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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