I’ve always believed that good leadership starts with staying true to yourself. Back when I was managing high-stakes corporate projects, I learned that the only way to turn things around was to lead in a way that felt natural to me, not just copy someone else’s approach. That lesson came back to me recently during a challenging moment in a volunteer role that I had held for years.

Someone criticized the way I had been running things, and instead of pushing back, I chose to step aside. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it gave me the space to reflect on what leadership really means and how sometimes the strongest move is to let someone else step in and learn, even if they stumble a bit along the way.

As we go on this week's Wise Walk together, I’m sharing what that experience taught me about boundaries, authenticity, and the value of stepping away when something no longer feels aligned.

• Where are you currently being asked to lead in your life?

• When you take on a project, initative or event, do you have full freedom and support to carry it out in a way that feels authentic to you?

• Do you stay true to your vision when others try to steer you toward a path that feels misaligned?

• Is there a leadership role where it might be time to step aside for someone more passionate and vocal?

• Have you led something successfully yet begun hearing restless feedback about doing it differently?

• If people bring fresh ideas, are you willing to invite them to lead and let their vision unfold?

• Can you hand off the reins smoothly, set the new leader up for success, and settle into a supportive back seat?

• How does it feel to ride along, caring about the destination but no longer steering the bus?

• Can you give the new leader space to stumble and learn just as you once did?

• As they take charge, can you appreciate how far you’ve already brought everyone on the journey?

Thanks for joining me on this Wise Walk. I hope it reminded you that staying true to yourself is always the best path forward. Until next time, read the signs, direct your path and get your stride on.

In this episode:

[08:01] I felt judgment and under attack when this individual criticized how I was leading a project. It was also disheartening because my efforts and leadership benefited many individuals for over 6 years.

[09:18] It was hurtful to hear criticism instead of collaboration and helpfulness.

[10:03] I reflected on my professional experience and decided it was time to pass the baton.

[11:52] I knew when it comes to leading something that matters, that I can only drive the bus the way I know.

[12:34] I want people involved to be part of the solution and not criticize afterwards.

[13:14] Taking a step back has freed me to do other things in my life.

[15:53] It's important for me to remember the fact that they don't know what they don't know.

[17:14] It's always easier to come in on things that you don't have full visibility to.

[19:30] I am so grateful for our Wise Walks that give me the ability to self-reflect and process some of these things that go on in my own life and welcome in other's experiences, challenges and perspectives.

[20:20] The biggest takeaway for me is to lead your way. Lead authentically and if it's not in alignment, take a step back or get off the bus entirely.

Memorable Quotes:

• “Clarity comes when you give yourself permission to step back and trust what feels right.” - Mary Tess
• “Lead in a way that aligns with your truth, not someone else’s expectations.” - Mary Tess
• “Giving others space and grace allows them to stumble, learn, and eventually shine.” - Mary Tess

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